There’s two kinds of resistance when it comes to work.
I’ve noticed between my work teaching and my work writing and sharing messages like this one, that there are two kinds of resistance that show up. They are both a signal to something you have to pay attention to.
The first kind of resistance is when you’re pushing and pushing to make something happen, but you’re just not making progress. And even more than that, you’re not getting any response from anybody – positive or negative.
Let me explain:
If I send out an email to folks who’ve subscribed to me, or if I even write a single tweet, and I get a mixture of positive and negative feedback…For example, a lot of people write back to me and a lot of people unsubscribe…
That’s a good sign.
That means that I said something that matters. If you’re sharing messages and hearing nothing over and over again, that’s a sign that nobody cares.
So the resistance of feeling like you’re doing a lot of work and not getting any response. That’s one kind.
Another kind of resistance though, is when you’re getting negative feedback. Because when you get negative feedback, you might think that it’s a cause to stop, but it’s more often a cause to look at what you’re saying or what you’re doing and consider the little kernel of truth might be in there.
For example, if I’m teaching a class and noticing that I’m consistently having a certain type of issue in that class, let’s say a struggle with classroom management, it could be easy to turn that over to the students.
It can be easy to say that they’re not doing their share of the work, but if I look at that resistance, and use it as a mirror, then I might be able to look at it through the lens of “where am I being less than perfect in this class? Where do I have room for improvement?”
And that type of resistance can be a signal and a compass for your own growth.
So maybe this is a little bit abstract, but I think these are two kinds of resistance we face, and both can be useful.